... and she never complained ...

Where did that come from and I want to know what husband said that!

I also what to know how it is that, not complaining is seen or said as though it’s some sort of virture. Doesn’t the person that say's that just mean that “she” never “complained” to him? Maybe it’s my interpretation of complain. It’s not the same as “nag” to me.

It’s sharing honest feelings, emotions, heartaches, sadness's, wishes, hopes and dreams for a better tomorrow.

I can say that my husband honestly knows me, who I am, who he married. He knows me and loves me, if he didn’t know all of those things, then who does he love anyway?

I think it’s important to share. Now sometimes, it becomes a “vent” and I will preface what I say as a vent if it’s a vent. It’s not blaming anyone for a situation, because you all know that things are what they are.

I’m sad when my husband leaves and when I “complain” that he has to go again, he never thinks that I actually think he can do something about it. He’s doing the very best he can. He’s doing the very best he can for ME and our children!

So, you may think that I complain when he leaves and I do, but it’s not a bad thing just the expression that I wish he didn’t have to. My complaint actually lets him know that I so wish he didn’t have to leave.

I’ll also “complain” that I’m always on the front line, but there’s that Queen of the Castle thing that isn’t so bad either. Now because I’m on the front line, even if he’s home and the garage door breaks it’s fixed by someone else the same day, I know how to get some things done. He’s happy about that.

So, I right now am feeling sad and complaining that we’re not independently wealthy and that my husband has to work so much and so far away most of the time. I like him in near proximity sometimes. He’s always near to my heart and I can talk to him everyday. I feel lucky that way, not everyone can talk or communicate everyday with their loved ones. So, now my complaint has turned into an expression of good fortune. Yay, I’ll get to chat with him shortly.

Now what I don't usually complain about are things that he can't fix or give me advice on. Like work. We have an understanding, if you need to vent, say that and then go ahead and vent. But if it's something he can't fix or give me great advice on and visa-versa then it's a waste of our precious time to discuss someting that is frivilous to the other, we'd rather discuss WHAT TO DO with this or that problem. I think we're pretty good at trusting eachother to manage our rehlm - him the providing - me "nurturing". There are strong overlaps for anyone that knows us, but he can do his job, I can do mine.

A little solicited advice never hurts sometimes either. So, balance in all things, I guess and I have just been bugged all day, because I've read or heard that phrase and now I know better why it may be my misinterpretation and it surly means "nag" to someone. I don't know, any ideas?